do not want to get divorced..what do i do

[distressed person]

I met a man in 2003/05, started living together...07/03. got married in 09/04. were seperated in 10/07, and still are dating nearly every weekend. I want to go to councilling and keep our marriage together, I mangaged his buisness and did all the banking without any pay. I sold my home and my buisness and with all my wages sunk it all in our marriage. About $195,000. I have it all on paper. We bought alot of toys together and travelled and hunted and did everything together and we still do.My husband is an alcoholic and i have endured many difficult situations regarding mental and physical abuse and would like to work through them as i still am very much in love with him, he tells me he still loves me. I do not want a divorce and he wants to stay together but not married. what am i entitlement or what can we do?? Please help thank you.

[Romanice]

Alcoholics don't have wives they take hostages. You will be forever trapped in his whirlwind of abuse until he finds recovery. This next piece of advice is absolutely critical for you. Start attending Alanon meetings, addiction services can direct you there, mental health services, AA. Dont ask should I go ask when is the next meeting and where do I go. Consider this a BIG red flag in your life.